DO WE EAT TO LIVE OR LIVE TO EAT?????

 Dost & Dosti

RELATIONSHIPS
Some days are peculiar:
Winds  and the rains  at times start to play a game,
We can get caught unawares, so you better be prepared;
It may start as a  sun scorching day, fraught with heavy tempers Giving rise to lots of heat &  Sizzle ,.
But soon the cool & calming breeze may usher in a sweet little drizzle.
The tempers of the Aura, n atmosphere, the tropho n strato( as I had used such terms initially) ,will then slowly Calm down;
The Muscle along with the Tussle
of this complicated Life puzzle,
Will Start to unwind, and  also get some respite, and may be welcome in a Delight!!
Yes This Weather News Bulletin I'm going to use on
US
Us thats you--
Us thats Me--
Us that just---- just every one around!!!    And how:::
Just like the weather can at times  change abruptly, thanks to an oft heard term these days__ GLOBAL WARMING, like wise, We too are subject to temperaments, mood upheavals that can destroy the sanctity of mind and indirectly affect the peaceful scenario at home./workplace/or in a community.
One needs to understand, why I  suddenly decided to broach this subject.
Friends,   I had talked of Relationships last week.
While Mood n morale_
Psyche n mental equilibrium,
Peace of mind & happiness are real difficult to analyse n explain, remember,  most times there may occur a imbalance amongst them. It may surface just like a mild crack on a glass,  which if left unattended to- may widen the Gap. This Gap equals to the rift/the break  in one or more than one of the categories of Relations/ friends/   acquaintances that are part n parcel of the advance circle of your contacts.

 
Let me get into the nitty gritty of Relationships.
Let's talk of Acquaintances,  Contacts, colleagues, comrades, companions, and Friends,  and then we shall discuss regarding Relatives.

Acquaintances:
They are people u interact with once in a while. Need not be your friend or contact. Becomes a, contact, once you exchange a dialogue with some purpose or intent  and then exchange mobile numbers with aim to connect  at a later date.

 

Colleagues: A person /s you work with. You are bound by a common need to stay and work together. Colleague may not / never become your friend, but a friend may some day become your colleague/ team mate. Your dialogue would be official n biz related, and seldom go beyond into your personal compartments.

 
Contacts: This is a  broad spectrum word that hugely encompasses each & every one in your list or world of associations. They may be just a name in a list under any subheading like Facilitators, Bankers  Financial consultants, Work colleagues etc. People u knew from a previous assignment, previous station / country where u lived and  many more. You may never call/connect /chat, but they are on your List  and can be connected with, as and when required, or called upon to fulfil some agenda.

 

Comrade: A person you work with in close contact for a particular agenda for a limited period of time. An associate, a  buddy, a chum.

Term oft used by people in the forces   example:- comrades in action
Your close friend or associate is also your comrade. Another eg: Teenagers often prefer seeing movies with a comrade or two, rather than with their parents.

Companions: One who  spends a lot of time  with another person. A contact, who may with period of time switch into another role   and that of a friend, may be to achieve a common goal ( travelling companions), or if there is a long time n chronic illness that has affected a member in a family, and they need a person to give physical, mental, psychological support to the affected person, and the other more able bodied agrees to be a companion ( this could be for a short, quasi long/ long term basis) .
Normally this concept is an accepted  precedence  abroad, but is nowadays finding more and more acceptability on Indian shores as well.
The difference between a friend, and a comrade: the  friend is somebody who cares about you in general, about your well being, your emotions, your feelings. But when somebody comes to you, as a comrade, or as a soldier, or ally, that relationship may be under the context of war, and personal  sentiments need not always be of much cognizance here in.
I've in simplicity outlined the terms  and varieties of associate bodies.

 
Their commonality is that
1) They are not relatives.
2) They are circumstantial_
Necessity brings them together.
3) They may roll from one category to another, if the association, ideas, thought processes mingle n there is desire to continue into an association beyond the realms of the need that brought them together.

 Conversely: They may be friends that may get into teamwork together after thoughtful deliberation or join work together in the same organisation with intent to further their interests. As also, once the goal is achieved, the team in most cases dissolves, and the members then go their individual ways, unless of course, a person or two remain associated, be it for furtherance of their official ends, or their likeness to get into a friendly association.

So who really is a FRIEND???

Friends: A person you like, you may not work with him, but like to hang out and at times  do naughty n nasty things together. A bridge of trust binds u together.

You may not meet for weeks, months, or even years but likeness  and fondness does not diminish!!
You look forward to more and more time with him. You accept his/her shortcomings, accept him/her the way he/she is, are impervious to the financial / social status , and love nurturing the association  as friends.

Happiness & peace of mind stand on a tripod of Friendship/ Trust & Faith.


Friend ko Dost boltey hai...

Ek kavita man mein utheeee, shabd waakya
bana rahey hain.. Aaao dekhein...

 
Ek Dost
Woh jis-se aap jantey hain, pehchantey hain,
Chahey koi rista ho, na ho,
Woh jo apna ho
Aap ko samjhta ho
Waqt pe kaam aata ho

Dost wahi jo 💓 ko rulaa de,
Aankhon 👀 ko hansaaa de,
Maathe ki salwaton ko sahlaa de,
Bhaari thakkaan ko bhula de,
Man ki shankaaown ko kuch waqt ke liye sulaaa de,
....
Dost wahi jo baarish me bhi tumhare kahne par saair karney chal padey,
Jo, ghar walon ko thoda naaraz karke bhi, apnow ke bulaney par nikal padey,
Aarthik paristhithi ki parwah na kartey huey , apne dost ko  madad ka vishwas de,

Jo har waqt, doosron ke liye tat par tyaar ho
( Apne liye, apno ke liye_ to sab kartey hain,)
Par, jo waqt par kaam aa sakey
Jo waqt par pahunch sakey
Jo khud beshak aswasthya ho, par aap ki takleef me maujood ho.....
Jab takleef ka samay aaye, koi rishetaaar pahunchey, napahunchey, aaise khambey jaisa_ aap ke saath khada rahey,
Rishetydaaro ki kami mahsoos na karney de..
Dost Wahi hai
Wahi sahi  hai
Wahi asli dost hai mere dost!!!

A friend in need- 

is a friend indeed.